Calendars and Schedules

So often when I am dealing with divorcing parents and there is even a hint of animosity over the children, I find that one of the things that is argued over the most is the children’s schedules. They don’t tell each other, or they do and one claims the other didn’t or one parent must find out about events from the children. None of these is acceptable. If you get the information, it does your children no good to not show up for events, and then blame it on the other parent. Granted, there are going to be times when a parent either refuses to pass along the necessary dates and times, or even innocently forgets. It does happen. So what is the solution? Courts have told the parents to keep a diary/journal that is exchanged each the time child is exchanged. I have seen these start with all good intentions, but eventually, the journal winds up with things in it more than information sharing, or it gets lost, or parents either refuse to use it or forget to use it. So, What is the solution? I have come across a website that is still in development but will be available soon. This website provides a coded calendar that allows each parent to put information on it about appointments, exchange schedules, holidays, just about anything. It can include not only the parents, but also the parents’ significant others, grandparents, aunts and uncles; anyone who is significantly and regularly involved in the child’s schedule. This website is called cofamilies.com. Okay, so I hear you. What if I put something on it, and dad/mom erases it? Well, they can try, but there is a history of every entry, so even if it is erased, it will show up in the history. These calendars and journals can be printed out to take to court hearings, mediations, any type of meeting or information sharing event. It doesn’t cost anything, and it can save you a lot of time, money, and anxiety. Give it a try.